Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Change

We are often made victims of CHANGE- Change in people, change in relationships, change in feelings. But what hurts the most is when this change takes its toll on relationships- when people don't seem to be the same anymore; feelings fade off and the relationship seems devoid of the spark that it initially boasted of.


And those feeling ripped off are the ones who don't change, whose feelings remain intact irrespective of time and who struggle to keep the relationship alive despite these changes disturbing the situations from time to time.

The initial days of dealing with change are indeed difficult coz fear of insecurity and feelings of being taken for granted surface. These are the testing days- the times that will send the strongest of the storms to shrivel the trust, to shatter your dreams and all in all to weaken the relationship.

How does one cope with these changes?
With time however things seem to get better if you build up your abilities to understand people and tune yourself to the changing conditions.

It hurts you less if you are capable of molding yourself according to changing people and situations, if you are able to figure out the actual reasons behind these changes. People change not because they want to but because they have to…because the situation or circumstances demands so. And the sooner you realize this, the better.

P.S- Happy birthday Ali ;). My best wishes coming your way, have a great time ;)

P.P.S- I still don't have Internet facility. Thanks to Sami and Lena for being so helpful in posting my posts :P

19 comments:

Sameera Ansari said...

That was a very wise post lambi!Sangat ka asar padh raha hai :P

Happy B'day to Ali :)

Vinz said...

nice post..thoughtful...
felt good reading it..

change is the essence of life.!!

Compassion Unlimitted said...

Very nice post.The pain & pleasures of change ,very beautifully brought out
TC
CU

Ravisekharan (a) Ravi said...

cOOL Post.. . .
LOvd reading it..


Nothing is permanent in this world xcept CHANGE. . .


Cheers & Tc,
Ravi.

Lena said...

someone has become very wise :P
thats true dear, once we realize change is a part of life and try to get used to it we will have less complications regarding all relationships we have
Really a wise post, sweets! :)

and happy birthday to Ali :)

Hemanth Potluri said...

:)....cool post...its a nice thought to read it out..yeh i to have a changed a lot in past few weeks...and change is the only thing which can change always :P..

hehe...

and

Happy B-Day Ali :D..have a blast..:)

urs..hemu..

Vinay said...

you have great sense of blog design. I am inspired.

Priya Joyce said...

**It hurts you less if you are capable of molding yourself according to changing people and situations,

yes very true.
changes r a part of life u hav to face it so its better to change wth the changes tats it.



and belated happy b'day ALI

Solitaire said...

Do you really think that when others change, we have not at all? Maybe we do not see the change within us but the change in others is noticeable and striking!

Ashish Soni said...

Thank you lady...


~Take care
Ali

Aneesh said...

Time is the teacher here. Whether we like it or not, change will be there, so it is we who needs to change according to it. There are no other solutions...
Things change, people change, what's constant?...
:)

IncorrigibleV said...

i totally agree the sooner u accept it and not blame ppl, the more nights when u sleep peacefully :)

joie de vivre said...

Change d wrd itself says a lot..
another way to percive..to rennovate..

? said...

Amazing. It is almost a universal fact that change is a way of nature and that relationships change over time

prajyot said...

nice post..!!

well change is very important and how fast we change is also important

Preetilata【ツ】 said...

change is inevitable.

good post chimpu.

mY last presentation was on change management. d post reminded me of all d praises i hv gt frm it.. :P

belated hppy b'day to Ali.

lukkydivz said...

@sami

haan moti..lena ke sangat ka asar hai :P

@lena

:D its all ur fault :P

@sneha di

these changes shouldnt affect the relationships..that was the intention behind the post :P

@vandi

i so agree with the nights being peaceful thing :)

@preeti

y are u singing your won parises? and that too on my blog :P lol

@all

thank u so much :) some1 is too lazy :(

Hemanth Potluri said...

so lazy huh...monkey :P...

urs..hemu..

Anonymous said...

ya...m a bit delayed...
first time here...awesome template and very wise words...!! :)

happy birthday to ali...(belated wishes if i m late for that too..!!)